“Not everyone’s cup of tea”, a popular English idiom to explain something or someone that is not to everyone’s liking, is a refrain that puts into perspective the attitudes of changing times.
A recent, rancid rant and news of a dear person’s death put matters into perspective. There was a moment of silence for the departed soul, followed by “Poor XXXX, they commiserated. They went on to say, “Pity, he was not everyone’s cup of tea”. “NOT EVERYONE’S CUP OF TEA”? Who cares, especially now when that person no longer draws breath?
So, what if he was not “everyone’s cup of tea”?
So what if I am not? Or you, for that matter?!
Why fit in some mould determined by society? Worse still, being disparagingly criticised by family when love and respect should be foundational? That is immeasurably sad. Let’s face it. Criticism, provided that it is constructive, is good. A character assassination? Unacceptable. Vitriolic verbalizations brings upset. Explanations in the face of rage would be moot. When confrontation seems disastrous, it is best to walk away.
Sometimes irrespective of how intrinsically “good” or decent one is, it may be that one is not ideal in another’s view. Those times already invested, time taken out of one’s life to listen, understand and advise, will never come back.
No matter how much one has cared (and still do),
No matter what one has done (and will not do going forward),
NO MATTER WHATEVER, for some, it will simply not be enough.
Loss in growth, is unpalatable, sometimes inevitable too. Those accomplishments slogged over, family time, emotional and financial investments pored over, all at great expense to oneself and loved one’s…..does not have to be shared.
Gain would be the peace of mind, mental uncluttering and increased value as a person, a worthy human being for oneself and others who DO matter.
Your path does not have to shared with naysayers and trouble makers, who do NOT matter. The next chapters of one’s life can be focused on continual improvement and happiness shared with those that are decent and appreciative. Forget the in–laws and the out–laws. If no matter what one has done, if that has gone unrecognized, then moving on, is the only solution.
Perspective first. Mindset second. Your health always.
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Very well portrayed your thoughts
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Sadly society cannot accept someone living life on their own terms and disturb! The way we’ve been wired is so unfortunate and laden with lack of growth!
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Yes Vish, thats so sad. Whatever happened to live and let live.
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Well said! There is no point in clinging on to someone who never accepts & appreciates us.
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Yes Megala, life needs to be lived and well too. Why can’t people just be happy for others?
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Very good! It seems people expect everyone to fit in that mould created by society or you end up being ‘not everyone’s cup of tea’. Guess that’s me!😂I helped a friend fixing up his house to sell, just a couple things needed to be done at first, the list grew to 10 things, I did 8 but couldn’t do the other 2 so he got angry and called me useless and good for nothing. Fits what you said,’ for some it will simply not be enough.’ Oh well, that’s what happens sometimes.😄
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Hi Steve, time is something we never get back. I dislike regrets but sadly one has them with the passage of time.
Ps, haven’t forgotten about the travel post. Am down with flu at the moment and this was a scheduled post.
Loves to you and Muffin.
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That’s okay, things happen, there is no real rush for it, thanks! Hope you are feeling better and having a great day! Muffin meows hi too!😁😸
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Good post and great reminders
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You’ve made some excellent points. And after spending too much time with those whose cup of tea I am not (which doesn’t take long), spending time with those who love me is such a healing balm. I want to be that kind of person to others. I’m “seeking divine perspective,” because I want to see the value in everyone, whether they’re my cup of tea or not. (Sometimes a cup of coffee can be an unexpected blessing. 😉 )
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Love what you said about the cup of coffee. 😊
I too look for the value in others and sadly have been let down so often. Now I do the best with the little that I have. Like me, love me, hate me, I’m not caring.
I’m just going to enjoy this journey as best as I can. We cannot run on empty for others.
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I’ve been let down often, too. That’s why the few times I’m not are such a delightful surprise, even more so the times I find a rare gem in an unexpected place. As for “like, love me, hate me,” I’m working on the “not caring” part. Having a thick skin and a tender heart is a balancing act only God can achieve, but I’m trusting Him to get me there.
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A thick skin and a tender heart, a delicate balance for sure. 🤗
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Loved this.
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Spot on, Kavitha!
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Thank you Rosaliene. 🤗
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Wise words, Kavitha.
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So true.. if someone doesn’t accept and appreciate us it’s much better to move on! Very well written!!
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Thank you Kranti. I send regards from a somewhat sniffly Kavita, its flu season here in SA. 🙄😊🤗
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Oh.. dear! Please take good care of yourself and feel better soon! 💖🤗
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Sorry to hear that.
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Thank you. 🌺
Such a beautiful day it is, and I cooped up in bed.
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I think it’s important to understand that it is love that foster bonding between family and friends. Criticism doesn’t. Everyone has shortcomings, so why point finger at others?
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Some people are just built that way, destructive. Sadly.
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True, Kavitha
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I hope you get well soon. Your lovely post was just what I needed today.
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I’m glad it helped you.
🌺 🌻
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Very well thought and written Sunshine…
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Thank you Ananya with the beautiful name.
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Plsr is mine for such a good post.
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Life is too short to accept the notion of acceptance. You have broached a notion “Of The World”. There may not be an important factor in life to have popularity while alive here on Earth. Tea? I drink tea only once in a while, and even years between cups. But, when I drink, I savor the moment. Could that be of what you speak? Love your presentation and development.
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Thank you Iohn for the support.
Will chat more soon.
Full of flu and ready for a medicated nap. 🤗
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Thank you Ian. 💐 🌺 🌸
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🖐😍good work mam
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Thank you Mathew
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Thank you mam criticisms are invited to my posts also
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I will be honoured if you give me the criticisms to my post
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What an excellent post and way of looking at life! Love it! 💖💖🌷🌷
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well said Kavitha. x
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Thank you M,
Lifes too precious to keep worrying about how we are perceived.
Live and let live I say.
K
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My favourite mantra too!
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Enjoyed reading this lovely post
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Thank you.
So true. We just need to celebrate who we are.
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