“Not everyone’s cup of tea”, a popular English idiom to explain something or someone that is not to everyone’s liking, is a refrain that puts into perspective the attitudes of changing times.
A recent, rancid rant and news of a dear person’s death put matters into perspective. There was a moment of silence for the departed soul, followed by “Poor XXXX, they commiserated. They went on to say, “Pity, he was not everyone’s cup of tea”. “NOT EVERYONE’S CUP OF TEA”? Who cares, especially now when that person no longer draws breath?
So, what if he was not “everyone’s cup of tea”?
So what if I am not? Or you, for that matter?!
Why fit in some mould determined by society? Worse still, being disparagingly criticised by family when love and respect should be foundational? That is immeasurably sad. Let’s face it. Criticism, provided that it is constructive, is good. A character assassination? Unacceptable. Vitriolic verbalizations brings upset. Explanations in the face of rage would be moot. When confrontation seems disastrous, it is best to walk away.
Sometimes irrespective of how intrinsically “good” or decent one is, it may be that one is not ideal in another’s view. Those times already invested, time taken out of one’s life to listen, understand and advise, will never come back.
No matter how much one has cared (and still do),
No matter what one has done (and will not do going forward),
NO MATTER WHATEVER, for some, it will simply not be enough.
Loss in growth, is unpalatable, sometimes inevitable too. Those accomplishments slogged over, family time, emotional and financial investments pored over, all at great expense to oneself and loved one’s…..does not have to be shared.
Gain would be the peace of mind, mental uncluttering and increased value as a person, a worthy human being for oneself and others who DO matter.
Your path does not have to shared with naysayers and trouble makers, who do NOT matter. The next chapters of one’s life can be focused on continual improvement and happiness shared with those that are decent and appreciative. Forget the in–laws and the out–laws. If no matter what one has done, if that has gone unrecognized, then moving on, is the only solution.
Perspective first. Mindset second. Your health always.
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