Never let anyone dull your sparkle.

Stepping out of depression is no easy task.   Delving into oneself to contemplate finding the energy to deal with an abyssal, yawning day requires true grit.  Those casually tossed platitudes, fake smiles and fake interest in the face of someone’s despair?  Forget them. It’s best left unsaid.  A depressed person is wise to those ways, knowing full well the sway of good and bad days.  On a positive day though, having a negative Nancy rain on one’s foray into perceived sunshine, can be quite daunting.

Sometimes, all that is required before a steep spiral descent into misery is a simple but firm “No”.  As Jessica Moore puts it, “Having healthy boundaries not only requires being able to say “no”, but also being willing and able to enforce that “no” when necessary.”
Step away from toxicity. Put the phone down if you have to, the situation can be re-visited later. No point in being an emotional dustbin. Sometimes no matter what you say or think will be refuted because of pre-conceived notions.

As it is, incredible will power is required to think, act and be positive.  Whilst depression can be muted, suppressed and sometimes even cured, one’s sparkle may be dulled with insensitive remarks and downright insensitivity.  Hence the need for daily, patient positive self-talk, self-love, self-motivation, sterling advice as sourced from Goodreads.

  1. “You’re beautiful, just the way you are. Shine on. And dare anyone to turn off the lights.”
    Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
  2. “Darkness allows the moon to shine bright. Know that you can shine in darker days too.”
    Carol ‘CC’ Miller
  3. “Never dull your shine for somebody else.”
    ― Tyra Banks
  4. “Shine your light and make a positive impact on the world; there is nothing so honorable as helping improve the lives of others.”
    ― Roy T. Bennett
  5. “Shine with all you have. When someone tries to blow you out, just take their oxygen and burn brighter.”
    ― Katelyn S. Irons
  6. “Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.”
    ― Jim Carrey
  7. “You are a light,” she replies gently. “And when you shine, you shine bright.”
    ― Marie Lu, The Midnight Star
  8. “I don’t need to see you to know that you’re beautiful.”
    ― Jeri Smith-Ready, Shine
  9. “You can overcome whatever is going on around you if you believe in the light that lives within you.”
    ― Justine Edward, Shine
  10. “Be uniquely you. Stand out. Shine. Be colorful. The world needs your prismatic soul!”
    ― Amy Leigh Mercree
  11. “It’s that heart of gold, and stardust shine that makes you beautiful.”
    ― R.M. Broderick
  12. “When you cultivate a godly thought life your soul will shine and you will exhibit the presence of the Lord in you.”
    Elizabeth George, A Woman’s High Calling
  13. “Let your star shine so bright such that those still in darkness can finally see the light.”
    Gift Gugu Mona
  14. “Let your light shine as an inspiration to humanity and BE THE REASON someone believes in the goodness of people.”
    Germany Kent
  15. “There may be clouds in the sky, and rain may be falling, but this doesn’t mean the sun has stopped shining.”
    Connor Chalfant
  16. Gratitude for being alive is the best way to rise and shine.”
    Rasheed Ogunlaru
  17. “May the goodness of God’s face forever shine on our path.”
    Laiah Gifty Akita
  18. “The day you forgive your past and close your eyes. You will hear a river flowing inside you again. You will hear that waves of the ocean hitting the seashores of your soul once again. And again the sun will shine, lighting up your darkest nights.”
    Akshay Vasu
  19. “When the heart is beautiful, its light shines through the eyes, vocal tones and actions of its master. True beauty is not in the body, but in the heart of the beholder.”
    Suzy Kassem

Finally, the best for last…

“Don’t be anyone’s firefly in a jar! A lot of people are attracted to the light. Some are also intimidated by it. They selfishly try to keep it for themselves. Sometimes it happens so fast, you don’t even realize you’re being captured. There is magic within you that will suffocate in a jar. If you wake up one morning and realize there’s a lid above you, do whatever it takes to free yourself. Life is much better beyond the jar. The world needs your light! Shine, Baby, shine!”
Sheri Fink


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57 thoughts on “Never let anyone dull your sparkle.

  1. good blog post kavitha ….thanks for share …depression is a really killer disease…depression is the largest disease in the world….and most effective medicine for this disease is support and motivation…

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  2. Great post, I think everybody needs to find an individual strategy being suitable and desired. Also important to be aware of during an depressive episode that this paralyzing tunnel is not endless and sparkling light waiting at the end again. For me this awareness always of great help. Take care and all the best @ Ulli

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  3. Wow, I love all the quotes but it truly is the best for the last.
    And I agree with everything. When you said no, then stand for it. But most of all, I hand down agree that fake comfort during a depression isn’t helping at all, in fact, they just bring me down even more.

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  4. There is a difference between being depressed and having depression. The first is psychological and the second is physiological. Physiological or clinical depression needs medication to restore the chemical balances in the brain. The imbalance causes electrical and chemical dysfunction and depression becomes a mood not necessarily a response to things going on in our lives. The causes for depression and being depressed are different but the symptoms are the same. I think your suggestions or strategies are useful. They have been for me for both aspects of depression in my own lifetime struggle. Sometimes just being stubborn helps too in my case. They key in either case is not to let is immobilize oneself and to realize we are empowered with talk therapy, positive attitudes or medication or some combination of both. It is indeed a form of mental illness and there should be no shame we have it. Agree, fight for your sparkle, Fight against the dying of the light as the poet D. Thomas so aptly expressed.

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