Motherhood

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Forget world peace for once. Let’s talk Motherhood, after all, is it not the hand that rocks that cradle that rules the world?

A combined mothering experience of 39 years, excluding the care of extended families little ones, the past years have been a trial with one child finishing tertiary education and another just beginning his cycle of tertiary studies. The curve balls have been dodged (barely), the expenses promise to continue to climb spirally, the trek seems insurmountable sometimes but all days, I dread the empty nest syndrome.

A South African Indian English speaking Hindu woman, my humble home has hosted many get-togethers with family and friends. Sadly with the demise of valued family elders, that has rapidly dwindled. Rampant technology, social issues and it must be said, increased selfishness of the younger generation has resulted in few memory making moments.

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A close family of four with five pets, our moments due to estrangement issues, are guarded and cherished. Our parental logic and prominently inherent belief, is that irrespective of whatever the future holds, once the children have flown the coop, lived their experiences, are still living their experiences, the family home will always be theirs to return to.

Having said that, there are days when proximity is over-rated, tempers flare yet the bonding remains unshakeable. A full time working Mom, the morning weekend meals are anticipated, more so, by my Handsome Leo, firstborn kitty, who insists and receives freshly cooked food, he will not budge until he is served. The majority of his weekend hours are spent cocooned at my side, my shadow to the kitchen, bathroom and back.

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Since favoritism is not allowed, we do have allies and the buddy systems works. Every parent will agree that perfect days are rare. The chores are plentiful for Supermoms and antics leave us baffled and grasping for answers. Payoff though is priceless. When they were younger, bedtimes were the best, the silence was sublime and the humming sound of the freezer, a gentle serenade. As they have matured, I despair of advising my son on matters that only experience has taught me. They have been well provided for but I have threatened to move in with them once they have all the things, I could not afford.

As much as the blessings are treasured, the intention is to encourage education, the one thing that can never be taken from them, to venture out and succeed in a somewhat harsh world.

Motherhood is no easy task and often, I seek affirmations and refer to these quotes…

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  1. “In a child’s eyes, a mother is a goddess. She can be glorious or terrible, benevolent or filled with wrath, but she commands love either way. I am convinced that this is the greatest power in the universe.” — N.K. Jemisin, The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms
  2. “Mothers are all slightly insane.” ― J. D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
  3. “There are few things more powerful than the faithful prayers of a righteous mother.” — Boyd K. Packer
  4. To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” — Maya Angelou
  5. ‘I have no need for children for it is happiness I am in search,’ and all the while she spoke, I smiled while happiness tugged at my skirt.” — Unknown
  6. “A mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled.” — Emily Dickinson
  7. “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” — Abraham Lincoln
  8. “Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while but their hearts forever.” — Unknown
  9. “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” — Tenneva Jordan
  10. “Becoming a mother makes you realize you can do almost anything one-handed.” — Unknown
  11. “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” — Sophia Loren
  12. “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” — Oprah Winfrey
  13. “There are three ways to get something done: do it yourself, hire someone to do it, or ask your kids not to do it.” — Malcolm Kushner
  14. “Nothing is really lost until mom can’t find it.” — Unknown
  15. “When your mother asks, ‘Do you want a piece of advice?’ it is a mere formality. It doesn’t matter if you answer yes or no. You’re going to get it anyway.

Theodore Hesburgh rightfully said, “the most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” In this day and age of divorce and divided homes, it is imperative that parents, irrespective of circumstances, support each other’s decisions to raise well balanced and healthy minds.

Quote references : https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/motherhood

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64 thoughts on “Motherhood

    • Hello Laureen, thank you💐 Motherhood has some crazy days, much like surfing different waves. Im content to just paddle along some days. Throw in 3 kitties and two preening spirited cocktails and um ready to reach for my sherry.
      Ps. I thought about you. I went for physio this morning, feeling a bit better. 😊 I send a hug from a rather rainy SA morning. 🤗

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  1. HI, Kavita! Thanks for stopping by my blog and liking my birthday post. Great fun at my age reading reading your post about raising children, et al. It’s been a while for me. I agree completely with with your family-oriented sentiments. Keep up the good work!

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  3. Great post. The poster on the door is priceless. I can relate even though I am a man. I bring my boys up on my own so I have to be both Mum and Dad. Although I am not sure I do ever job that well! I like the one handed comment. It’s amazing how versatile you become.

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  4. I want that sign for my front door! Even though our babies are no longer babies – who has to know? Love the response about being adopted, my sister used to tell me that all the time (even though she was the adopted one) but I never had a good comeback. Smart kid! And I love the list of mother quotes, and I do my best to be that mother, but my own mother? She’d take the last piece of pie. Sad but true. Lists like these always make me feel strange because it is just not the experience I have had. Hopefully the experience my children are having though. Great post! 💕

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    • Hi Amanda,
      That sign says it all! Motherhood alas, is here to stay. I’ve had my fair share of events of late and today was something else entirely. What can I say, except that I knew that I had to be there for my daughter, as I did not have that support then. So yes, I will do my best. Motherhood…. I’ve been estranged from Mom. The family has united somewhat what still my reserve is there. Hurt is hurt and forgiving aside, I still cannot forget 😦
      Thank you for the support Amanda, I value the sisterhood and appreciation.
      Look out for my post tomorrow, also on Motherhood.
      Have a blessed day, until again, Kavitha

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  5. Forgiving is one thing, it’s impossible to forget. Now that I’m responsible for my mother who is losing her memory, I have to work very hard to not feel resentment that I’m showing her more care than she ever gave and I already have three children and a chronic illness. But in the end, the resentment only hurts me, so I reframe it by thinking about the role model I’m being for my kids. Then hopefully they’ll look after me when I go batty, but won’t feel so resentful about it. 🤪 Look forward to your next post. Have a wonderful day, my friend! 💕

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